I will be born in 2039

Welcome, Dear Readers- Please do not get surprised, with the title of this column. I am no God, neither Spiritual Guru, nor Religious teacher or saint. I am just like you, Human being.

I am not born but wait a moment-do not get to the conclusion. You might be wondering, if this person is not born who wrote this column? What is that he is trying to prove? Well, there is nothing that author wants to prove or claim. It is just a simple joke.

Today, looking at the Nations situation- I think I will be born in 2039. Now this is not the entire story, with doom of Economy (Global, National or Regional) there is no point in living a life of jeopardy. We have seen the country ruled by Kings (Razas and Maharazas), We also have seen so called “Democracy” and currently, “Federal Democratic System” and “…” in near future.

There is no change in creation of Jobs, Security, Electricity, Economy and Transportation to name few. I do not blame our beloved Prime Ministers neither I blame all the top-executive Politicians; I blame myself; because I know I will be born in 2039.

Yesterday, I heard the news where, a young man who was just seventeen years old kills reportedly fifteen and then himself at a school in Germany. A friend of his told police today, that he was bullied by class mates, teachers for many years. When he wanted to speak to them (Teachers, friends, parents) no one listened to him. Personally, I feel what my friend Paul from Austria feels- The young Gunman was innocent simply because, no body listed to his anguish. The tragedy could have been avoidable if there was the presence of love in his life.

Children of today are treated like valueless and useless beings. The world depends on them and the future of the entire world is dependent on how we treat them today. This is a sad story and this is just the beginning- I think. As we can see everybody is busy in their own personal life and nobody wants to LISTEN to anybody, simply because we all have point to make and grow within the society.

Then a quote popped into my tiny little brain which states, “Love is integral part in human life, without the sense of its presence no human wants to live life in despair.”

Let me get back to your questions, one very good friend of mine named Teemu, from Finland asked, “Santosh-when were you born in your country?” This is a good question, I thought- and before making my statement open, I visualized that- “We are in 2065, even ending it soon”. Then, I replied him back with the smile on my face stating-“I will be born in 2039.”

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To Rest in Peace

Plot: Gloomy Sunday( The day after 14th of Feb, 2009) it is, when a man's love is preparing for her marriage and this young handsome man has decided to take away his life and to rest in peace.


************To Rest in Peace***************

My heart bleeds waiting for you
Maybe all my wishes and desires
Are tired of me, silent with me
I have decided my heart and me
To rest in peace,

Once, I had my life and you,
Nobody else, nothing except you.
Today, in fact, Gloomy Sunday it is.
You are preparing your marriage.
Me and my heart is preparing
To rest in peace,

Who cares, if I and my heart decide?
Maybe all your new wishes and desires
Will come true, with your new man
You have now given me, tears as my drink
And sorrow and sadness as my food
Me and my heart has decided
To rest in peace, Amen!

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"Prostitution"

"Prostitution"

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Women (WO+Men), Wife of (Men) - Please notice the two capitals in the word "Women". In very old English, wyf or wifman were used to refer "a woman" where "Wif" evolved into the word "wife". Today, I am claiming that, the origin has to re-research. Are we sure that we really know everything that's going on in the countries you have lived in? Unlike Political turmoil, bandh and Chakka Jams there is far more important aspect to look at such as humanitarian tragedies, rape, and child abuse and sexploitation. The big picture here is how to how to deal with slavery and forced prostitution in SE-Asia?

Human-rights organizations have been studying human trafficking for years: those who are skeptical should actually read some of those reports by the NGO's and INGO's. Once I visited the Massage Parlor in Thamel and I heard a story from a prostitute on why she was in this business? I found that, it was because of her husband who left her. There are several other factors such as, unwanted pregnancy, poverty, fake boyfriend or husband, sickness of family, debt or family debts and lack of proper education. Prostitution (In Kathmandu, Commonly known as Massage Parlor near Thamel area) is integral part of sex trade for buyers and traders. Forced Prostitution and sex trade is highly focused for local customers and also to foreign tourists. In Thailand and Japan, sex trade is billion dollar industry. What is the motivation for these prostitutes who sell her body to foreign males or even locals? The biggest motivating factor is "Poverty, lack of support from family or finding alternatives to support family and lack of education". Most of the times, these women are involved in Prostitution through friends, relatives and even by there family who lure them into sex business.

There is also another form of sexual abuse a women has to face- psychically atrocious, to be raped by strangers non-stop, or nightly rapes by a father, grandfather, brother or uncle. There should be rampant prevalence of child rape perpetrated by male family members. Unfortunately, our family and criminal courts are equally ignorant and ineffective at addressing the realities of sexual assault of children within families. Buying the virginity of a prostitute, or receiving a gift of virginity (as now women seem voluntarily to be doing for their husbands through plastic surgery) is very bad in today's society. I believe, Choice of when, where, and with who to have sex is a privilege that very few women in this world experience.

My heart bleeds for these innocent and vulnerable young women, anyone who abuses a woman and especially a minor should be prosecuted, if you want to help, address the source of the problem: poverty. Give them a fishing pole, rather than simply handing fish. To those who are skeptical about this- imagine your young son or daughter being the subject of abduction and slavery. As long as there is lack of proper support from our Government, which sounds like a rotten tape recorder now, no Western world and no NGO will change the rules of the trade.

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7 things to do, to be happy

With Unquenchable curiosity, I have come to this conclusion that- There are seven things a human can do to be happy. These seven things are listed below with explanation.

1. Sex
2. Smile (in worries)
3. Listen (Music, Others around)
4. Observe
5. Believe in Yourself (Also in Supreme Power, beauty of Nature)
6. Respect (Women or Male)
7. Be like a child.


1. Sex
Why Sex? Sex will give you pleasure, only thing that comes in my mind is sex-most of the times. Especially when I am alone. Medical experts will say that, sex exercise will burn calories to produce health benefits. I think they are correct to some point. The more you perform the sex, the better happy you will be of course by mutual agreement with your partner.

2. Smile
Why Smile? Smile is motivating cause for happiness which could be shown voluntarily or involuntary. We may have difference in culture, political system, life styles, country, religion and land but one thing remains same, “smile.” Smile especially in worries, when you are alone. When you think there are more worries coming your way. The root cause of all your worries will be gone once you start smiling at yourself. Look at your problems and worries and smile.

3. Listen
Everything is changing with time. Music besides any culture has common language. Music is "the harmony of the spheres”, it will bring happiness by inextricably intertwining into your life. As all our concepts and ideas are internal pictures, music is eternal harmony in our lives.
Others around signifies, those who want to speak listen to them first. Understand the philosophy of there thinking by listening to them. If I were a God, I would say- Some times, I can listen to all those who are not even near to me. (How?) Just by listening to their heart full of worries.

4. Observe
One man has done great deal of the work on Observation- Buddha. His quotes on Observation will explain everything on this issue.

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

5. Believe in Yourself

Always remember, It is not who you are that will hold you back, it is who you think you are not. Vincent Van Gogh has said that, “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint’, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” Therefore, the most important motivating factor to be alive is to believe in yourself and your abilities. Once I was ready to checkout of this life but I stopped just because I wanted to make most of myself and conquer myself.
Supreme Power and beauty of Nature should be believed because in the times when you are feeling low and down, when there is shadow of darkness quest for light- close your eyes and pray. All your prayers and wishes will be heard.


6. Respect
Respect could be defined as a manifestation of a human’s quality or behavior which does not come from influence but inner instincts. A single gesture, words and expression can result into great respect for those around you. If you are male, respect to fe-male and male. If you are fe-male respect to male and fe-male. Why? Because respect will give you pleasure and make you happy.

7. Be like a child
Einstein said, “All of my discovery and invention are because I stayed to be like a child.” It is true. The Unquenchable curiosity of the child can result into great inventions, can perform even the miracle. We always complain that, If God exits, why do not we see him/her. I would recommend, see the beauty and innocence of the child-you will see the God.

“Mind matters”

Everything is first created in our minds. All that you see which is human work on this planet first found expression in the mind, then it got manifested in the outside world. A well established mind, a mind which is in a state of wishing tree. If you organize your mind to a certain level, it, in turn, organizes the whole system.

Body, emotions, energies, everything gets organized in that direction. Once we are empowered with a potential like this, it is very important that our physical, emotional, mental and energy actions are controlled and properly directed. If it is not so, we become destructive, self-destructive.

The technology which is supposed to make our life beautiful and easy has become the source of several problems. What should have been a boon is turning out to be a curse. If life has to happen the way you think it should happen, first of all how you think and with how much focus you think, how much stability is there in your thought and how much reverberance is there in the thought process - all these will determine if your thought will become a reality or not. Today, modern science is proving that the whole of existence is just a reverberation of energy. It is a vibration.

Similarly, your thought is also a vibration. If you generate a powerful thought and let it out, it will always manifest itself. To create what you really care for, first, what you want must be well manifested in your mind. Once you can maintain a steady stream of thought without changing direction, definitely this is going to happen in your life.

It will definitely manifest as a reality in your life. You must be clear as to what is it that you really want. If you do not know what you want, the question of creating it doesn't arise. What every human being wants is to live joyfully; he wants to live peacefully, in terms of its relationship he wants to be loving and affectionate.

All that any human being is seeking for is pleasantness within himself, pleasantness around him. Once your mind gets organized, the way you think is the way you feel: your emotions will get organized. Once your thought and emotion are organized, your energies will go the same way. Then your very body will get organized. Once all these four are organized in one direction, your ability to create and manifest what you want is phenomenal.

You have the power to create; you are the Creator, in so many ways. The whole technology of Yoga is just about this - transforming you from being just a piece of creation to the Creator himself. This is not in search of God; this is in search of becoming a God. This is not in search of Divine; this is in search of becoming Divine.

Retired to a Forest to become Buddha

A few people may like to lead a lonely life in a quiet place to practice Buddhism, for their own reasons. There is nothing wrong if a man spends some time away from the hurly and burly of life as a part of spiritual and intellectual training to come out stronger; such a person would be of greater help to fellow human beings. But it is certainly more praiseworthy and courageous to practice Buddhism living amongst your own people, helping them and to have empathy, mutual love and concern for all. But if a man lives all his life in solitude without caring for family community and tries to become like Buddha this is not in keeping with Buddha's teaching which is based on compassion and service. Once my wife Padhmawoti said, "there is a human tendency to become imitators". People are trying to imitate, to become somebody else. Don't try to be anybody else. You cannot be! You can try, and you can deceive yourself and you can promise yourself and you can hope that someday you will become somebody else, but you cannot become. These are only illusions that you can go on having. They are not going to become realities ever. You will remain yourself whatsoever you do. An incident in Buddha's life shows how much importance he gave to family life. A young man, used to worship six cardinal points of heaven: east, west, north, south, nadir and zenith — as instructed by his religious head. When he met the Buddha to embrace his religious doctrine, Buddha told the young man that in his religious discipline the six directions were: east — parents, west — wife and children, south — teachers, north — friends, relatives and neighbors. At the bottom were others and at the top, seers. Six Families are as sacred in Buddhism and one should perform duties towards them truthfully. In Hinduism, parents are referred to as Brahma. Second in the order comes Guru, or teacher. Every pupil is expected to respect and obey his teacher. Third is the sacred relationship between wife and husband. Both husband and wife need to respect each other and express their love and regard by caring and sharing. The Buddha didn't forget to mention that a husband could gift clothes and jewellery to his wife — as a way of demonstrating the fact that he cared for her physical well-being, too. Love is the energy that helps us to heal, whether we give this love to ourselves, or we receive it from another. When we look at having loving relationships in our life, why not start with ourselves? Because that is where love comes from. This is what transforms our relationships and our lives. It is clear those in order to practice Buddhism you are not expected to become a monk or retire to a forest or cave. You can practice it even while living with and caring for family and discharging your duties towards family members.

Somebody Me

Lyrice
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You, do you remember me?
Like I remember you?
Do you spend your life
Going back in your mind to that time?
Because I, I walk the streets alone
I hate being on my own
And everyone can see that I refell
And I'm going through hell
Thinking about you were somebody else

[CHORUS]
Somebody wants you
Somebody needs you
Somebody dreams about you every single night
Somebody can't breath without you, it's lonely
Somebody hopes someday you will see
That Somebody's Me
That Somebody's Me

How, How could we go wrong
It was so good and now it's gone
And I pray at night taht our paths will soon cross
And what we had isn't lost
Cause you're always right here in my thoughts

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[CHORUS]
Somebody wants you
Somebody needs you
Somebody dreams about you every single night
Somebody can't breath without you, it's lonely
Somebody hopes someday you will see
That Somebody's Me
That Somebody's Me

You'll always be in my life
Even if I'm not in your life
Because you're in my memory
You, will you remember me
And before you set me free
Oh listen please

[CHORUS]
Somebody wants you
Somebody needs you
Somebody dreams about you every single night
Somebody can't breath without you, it's lonely
Somebody hopes someday you will see
That Somebody's Me
That Somebody's Me
That Somebody's Me
That Somebody's Me

Budha and Budhi

Budhi (Wife) enjoyed what she believed to be good relationship with her Budha (Husband) till one day it suddenly ended. The husband, who never blamed her for anything, preferring to take upon himself the responsibility for everything that went wrong between them, turned around and told her he just couldn't take it anymore.

How could she have been so oblivious to the deepening fissure? Why didn't she notice or understand Husband’s discomfort and against in the relationship? A lack of communication, the reason many relationships break down, turning soul mates into roommates and then, no mates.

The biggest problem of course is that most men and women seem to be talking at cross purposes most of the time because of the vastly different ways in which they think. Words are not only medium for communication. People should communicate through gestures, touch, your sensitivity, respect, attention, thoughtfulness and caring, the choices we make in life and how considerate we have been of our loved one's, needs and desires in those choices. It might Sound easy, and yet most of us forget to look beyond ourselves and interact with another. "But I talked all the time," protests Budhi. "He hardly ever spoke and never did he once make me sit and explain his problem to me.

Basically he bottled up all his feelings and without warning one fine day let them out and dumped me. I tried to reason out with him, apologized and told him that I could and have changed. But he was not ready to listen.”Communication isn't all about talking; is it? It's as much about listening intently. Listening to what your partner says, and even more important, hearing what he doesn't say. Husband’s silences and tendency to bottle up his feelings was admittedly very self-centered and excluding — a sure way to kill a relationship. And yet, didn't Budhi notice the abnormality of his "taking all blame on himself” and never once protesting? After reading a book “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”, I can state that “Both Men and Women seem to be from different Planet.

There is bound to be differences between either Martians and Martians or Martians and Venus. Only solution that can overcome it is what I will call “Intelligent communication medium”. Men have traditionally been brought up to be independent and so hardly ever explain their actions, while women are taught early to connect with each other and relate on an emotional plane. That in itself lays down the grounds for different perspectives and misunderstandings.

To sum up, I would go by my wife’s Padhmawoti’s saying-“Trust and Togetherness” are two key elements in the journey of relationship. If one element is missing couples will become wary and Stress, new situations such as the birth of a child, financial hassles, suspicion, jealousy, and frustration and so on will rise. Therefore it is not good idea to throw away a relationship you have invested your life energy in just because you refuse to talk. Or, because you forget to listen!